Change

Did you know that change is one of the least-easy experiences for most people to handle? Yet remember:

“The Only Constant in Life Is Change.”

– Heraclitus

So if it’s so constant, why is it not easy? I’d say because we somehow often believe that that things will stay the same. So if we are experiencing something wonderful, we often believe it will last forever (at least we hope it will); and if something not-great is happening, we often believe it will last forever too (though hope it will not). Interestingly either can become our reality as the amount of energy/focus we spend thinking, speaking, or acting on a thought/belief, the more that experience will grow. This is why taking time to think, speak and believe something in the direction of our desires is so useful. Visualizations and affirmations are helpful for exactly this purpose. Meditation can bring us to a whole other experience which allows for a connection to a higher space of clarity and what I often refer to as connection with Divine Guidance or with God/the Universe or even our own Higher Consciousness. This can help clear the mind by redirecting/training it to stop thinking for even just a short time every day. I cannot stress the value of this experience.

I find some people like meditation, some like visualization and some may like affirmations. Whatever you may like most, I encourage a consistent and regular practice with clear intention. After that, patience is often the key. This is actually the area that I find most people have the least… patience for – lol! For this post, I thought I’d share some ideas that I help people work with in Brain Re-Training with me.

It’s important to know that we do have psychological biases that make us resistant to change. These are tendencies that make us think in ways that often impair our judgement and understanding of our experiences, and they are based on our perception of our reality.

Have you noticed one (or more) of the four following common patterns of thought that may be affecting your perception of reality?

1. Depletion: This is when not changing seems to be the easiest option. Change requires one to leave a comfort zone, which takes mental and sometimes physical effort. A space of depletion can hamper the ability to carefully make choices, maintain motivation, weigh decisions and ultimately take action. This is the time to build up resources with sleep, light exercise, connection with nature, and good nutrition. The next step is to build motivation (in the brain/mind) for a healthy new direction.
2. Keeping Things Status Quo: In order to try to maintain some sense of “sameness” some may rely on information that represents the current state or focus on the previous choices that created current conditions, whether those were made by themselves or others in their lives. This adds energy to the concern already experienced and re-creates the experience. This benefits from motivation and re-training.
3. Loss-Aversion: This is when people think about making a decision and worry/focus more on the things that may be lost with the decision. This leads to a stagnation of the flow of energy and often blocks positive life experience. This benefits from re-training the mind to focus in a new way.
4. Over-Investment: This happens when people put more time, money and energy into (especially poor decisions, poor products, and/or poor investments). One can only know this after the fact, clearly, but many continue on this path even after such awareness early in their paths. This often leads to more poor decisions, products and/or investments. This benefits from re-training to look at facts objectively and consider options to goals.

Brain Re-Training is about first gaining clarity. I have found that many peoples’ minds are first clouded by unresolved emotions in their lives. When the mind clears from such emotions, it can more easily be guided towards sound and clear decisions that come from inspiration rather than motivation through focus on thought patterns that are creating the current/recurring experienced reality. In this process, the Re-Training comes from honestly contemplating desired goals and expectations. With this process, and then repeated and regular reminders through appointments and then personal efforts, people are able to focus their efforts on their joyful creations! So far this has been a wonderful experience with clients.

I thought I’d also share a post I created in another blog some time ago that also speaks of how I still encourage people to think about change. Hope it is helpful to you too! https://qioflife.wordpress.com/2013/05/09/what-if/comment-page-1/#comment-6

If you are ready to create positive change in your own life or for positively effecting those around you, do contact me! I’d be happy to help you move towards your own joyful creations!

Call/text: (416)920-8975 or email hanifahelps@gmail.com

Wishing you a Consciously-Creative life experience!

Kindly,

Hanifa